Thanabalan Bala Ladamuthu
What I love about the
Landmark Forum is that it is
so simple yet effective. I do not need to have a Phd in psychology to be
clear of what stops me in life, what inspires me and where I am least
effective and why. In other words, I am able to distinguish for myself
who I am being in life, whether at work, home or play. And I also love
that the Landmark Forum works for successful people like myself where it
has caused me to look beyond what I have achieved and avoid complacency.
My wife Sheela and I had a great relationship since our marriage in
1996. However, before the
Landmark Forum every time we had a
disagreement or argument, I felt she was imposing or trying to dominate
me with her points of view. I then went silent and it followed that
disagreement or argument would persist.
After I did the
Landmark Forum, I could see for myself that my silence
was how I - and not her – was dominating everything. At the
Forum, I saw that I got the choice to go silent or listen to my wife and
resolve the underlying issue. So now as a result we argue less and the
arguments do not persist. There is more peace and love in our
I have three young daughters. When they were born, I told myself I would
be a great dad and bring them up with love and care without resorting to
punishment unless absolutely necessary. But there was still stress when
the girls did naughty things and I got worked up.
After the Landmark Forum, I realized that I was feeling the stress
because every time the girls did something naughty, as little children
always do, I was fearful of a future where these girls would continue to
be naughty and I would be labeled a bad father. I had the focus on me
rather than them.
Now, once I turned the attention to the children rather than me,
whenever they do naughty things, I get less and less upset and I engage
with them more lovingly. I have stopped trying to live my life through
them. And I have noticed that the girls listen to me more and there is
more fun and laughter in the house.
The way this education makes such a difference in my life and in so many
people’s life is what I found truly inspiring. It inspires me is that
these breakthroughs are available to everyone regardless of their race,
language or religion. It works for older as well as younger adults. I
have seen and experienced that in myself, my wife, friends as well as
strangers I meet who have attended the Landmark Forum.
I have always wanted to contribute but was always looking and waiting. I
was looking for the most noble cause and waiting for a time when I would
not be busy to give my time more freely. Fortunately after I did the
Landmark Forum there was the Assisting and Leadership Program to express
this urge to make a difference to people, and to do it now and within my
It is a profound privilege and gives me immense satisfaction to be part
of the community of very special people at the Landmark in
Singapore and Asia. I am truly excited for the future we generate for
each of us and for the rest of our world.
May 30, 2008
"It is a profound privilege and gives me immense
satisfaction to be part of the community of very special people at the
Landmark in Singapore and Asia.
"I am truly excited for the
future we generate for each of us and for the rest of our world."